The Dance of Anger: A Guide for Women to Transform Intimate Relationships by Overcoming Unhealthy Patterns

Tom F. Goforth: good reading.

United States on Nov 07, 2023

GN0425: Amazing book. Not heavy so you can put it in any bag!

Canada on Oct 14, 2023

Jessica Poole: Bought this for a friend. I read it a few years ago and it’s helped a lot

United States on Sep 02, 2023

Linda P: Recommended by Medical Professional. Wow my stresses outlined !!! Recommended

United Kingdom on Aug 20, 2023

ginger a florian: Recommended by a Wellness Center for Cancer patients/survivors, by a healing therapist. If you (or someone else) feels anxious and somewhat stressed (doesn't have to be major) about every day communication, especially with a close relationship (be it spouse, parent, sibling, supervisor, etc.) - there are underlying (probably long-standing) issues that you can definitely relate to. The Author offers real scenarios with real solutions for lifelong changes with those relationships. You will do the work to do the suggestions - but it's worth it!

United States on Jul 04, 2023

Candace Stengler: I have leaned so much on why women behave the way they do. How to observe and work to make healthy changes in your daily relationships with your partner, children, co-workers and you first family.

Canada on Apr 22, 2023

Linda L: A truly revolutionary book. Most women are taught to repress anger so keep it buried, or turn it on themselves. A therapist once told me, "Depression is anger turned inwards." Passivity harms relationships; so does aggression. Harriet Lerner teaches you how to honour the wisdom of your anger and express it assertively AND effectively.

Canada on Dec 24, 2022

MaydiMaydi: I recommend this book both to those women who are not afraid of showing their anger: the ones who yell and scream and throw things, etc. I also recommend it to those who try to hide this emotion or tend to distance themselves, or cry instead of screaming, or prefer to suffer in silence. As the author explains in detail, these are basically the two sides of one same coin.

We all get angry and need to acknowledge this powerful emotion and use it effectively. That's the purpose of the book and the author gives great examples to help us get to the nirvana of anger...

I particularly recommend this book to those ladies who are struggling with anger in their intimate relationships, mainly with their partners and secondly with their mothers or fathers. I have issues um both department's (esp. husband and mom) so this book was like manna sent from heaven.

I have seen results on my everyday life just from reading, understanding and putting into practice the author's advice given in every chapter. I've highlighted the parts that I feel talk to me personally and read them again every few days.

All in all, yes, go ahead and buy the book.

France on Feb 29, 2020

Radar626: I think we all dismiss reviews that do nothing but gush and write word after glowing word about a book that we feel has changed our lives. And it's easy to dismiss those reviews until you come across that one book that makes you feel the same way. For me, it was "The Dance of Anger" by Harriet Lerner.

This book was a person choice to read after finding myself often feeling frustrated and irate about things that shouldn't make me feel that way. Sometimes we can write it off as a bad day, PMS, bad night's sleep, lack of coffee, or running into grumpy people all day. Whatever the cause, it was tiresome feeling cranky. I've read other books on anger, even done workbooks, but nothing really affected me the way this book did. I can say that she laid it all out in simple terms, but she didn't. Ms. Lerner didn't take the "dumb it down" route that some authors do because they feel the readers won't understand all the psychological mumbo-jumbo.

From the first page of this book to the last, I had so many "ah-ha" and "oh my Lord" and "that's me!" moments that with the highlighting and post-it flags the book now resembles a neon pinata. This book has a permanent spot on my...

United States on Jan 02, 2013

Rev. Dr. Jude Arnold: The Dance of Anger by Dr. Harriet Lerner, Kindle Version
A BOOK REPORT BY REV. DR. JUDE ARNOLD
I was happy to find the eBook version of Dr. Lerner's 1970's classic. I'm finding writing my first review of an eBook much more challenging, tho. Dr. Lerner, a champion in women's psychology, offers us this awesome self help around anger. I begin with the Epilogue in which Dr. Lerner talks about what she means by self help.
"'Defining a self' or `becoming one's own person' is a task that one ultimately does alone....In the end, I define what I think, feel and believe....Yet, this lonely and challenging task cannot be accomplished in isolation. We can only accomplish it through our connectedness with others and the new learning about ourselves our relationships provide."(Italics and Underlining throughout are Dr. Lerner's.)
In her books Dr. Learner always stresses "the importance of learning about the experience of family members and sharing our own." She also adds her belief that it's "equally crucial for us to connect with the family of womankind....This book [is] about personal anger and personal change, but as feminism has taught us, `the personal is political.' This means...

United States on Sep 08, 2012