Unlock the Keys to Lasting Love: Understanding Adult Attachment and Its Benefits for Your Relationships

Jole: L’ho letto in inglese ma esiste anche la versione in italiano. Lo consiglio moltissimo: un libro che va letto anche solo per cultura generale, per spazzare via tantissimi preconcetti che rovinano la vita sentimentale delle persone. Lo metterei come lettura obbligatoria alle superiori.

Italy on Nov 05, 2023

Amazon Customer: I wish I knew different attachment styles long time ago when I was dating. My life would be a different one.

Canada on Oct 08, 2023

Tonya: Interesting book and easy to read and understand. Gives examples of scenarios that make things easy to understand. Would recommend and have recommended to friends and family.

Canada on Sep 27, 2023

Kelly Zhang: I’ve been an anxious attachment style for my entire life. I never understood why I was dating people that made me feel inadequate. Now with the help of this book, I was able to get out of relationships that don’t serve me right. I’m now actively using the strategies that taught in the book. My future happiness depends on it. In fact not only I read the whole book, I’m re-reading some chapters repeatedly so I’m constantly reminded of what’s the right approach to take. I have shed so much tears over relationships which this book could have helped prevented. My future is brighter with this new acquired knowledge.

Canada on Aug 07, 2023

Sieran Lane: First of all, I really enjoyed reading this book. This is far more insightful than what I learned in my psych courses on attachment theory. I also appreciated the sheer number of examples used in the book, which helped to clarify the authors’ points.

It was illuminating to see the many tendencies of different attachment types, especially when we see some attitudes that are prevalent in society. (E.g. The avoidant’s complaints that their partner is being needy, clingy, or demanding; the anxious partner’s apprehension towards the fate of their relationship if their mate takes too long to reply to their text messages.) Because such attitudes and beliefs are widely heard of in our society, we might believe that they are all true and valid beliefs. They are not. In fact, I recognize that they are the products of emotional reasoning—“I feel like this, therefore it’s true.”

The self-assessment was helpful, as it uncovered some misunderstandings I had about myself. I thought I was mostly secure but with an avoidant bent, and that I was rarely anxious. However, in the test results, I am indeed predominantly secure, with a few anxious and avoidant...

Canada on Oct 02, 2018

Khaleesi'sHandMaiden: My psychiatrist pretty much made me order this book even though in my mind I was dead set against, thinking it was going to be a waste of time, perfectly convinced I knew everything about myself and whatever kind of "attached" I was.

Whoa.

Was I wrong.

And I hate to be wrong. Thanks, Dr. D.

General Information: This book is an easy read. It's not that stuff you need to be a rocket-scientist to figure out - in layman terms it briefs you on the broader different styles of attachment: secure, anxious and avoidant. The book helps you determine what kind of attachment styles you have via reading examples of others attachment styles and there are also some quizzes if you're still not sure, all of which I found useful. I really liked that the authors presented examples of scenarios of attachment styles and encouraged the reader to read through the scenarios and guess the kind of attachment styles that were presented based on the knowledge we had already been given in the earlier part of the book. I find that a helpful way to learn.

Given that I was not into reading this in the first place - the fact that it was light reading, interesting and at times...

United States on Oct 06, 2017

Self-Help Reviewed: Updated review with additional thoughts and reading recommendations:

Keep in mind that this book is written to address a person who is in the anxious role, so it has a reassuring and quelling tone that may not be relatable for a partner who is using de-activating strategies and shutting down. The unfortunate cost of this tone in the book is also that it inadvertently condones or, at least, doesn’t sufficiently take a stance on abusive behaviors. The book omits a critical perspective on the intersection of attachment patterns and gender. Put simply, while attachment styles themselves aren’t gendered, the strategies available for expressing these styles have a socially determined component. For example, when a male-identified individual who is in an anxious role in a relationship resorts to strategies such as controlling behaviors, name-calling, yelling and demanding, etc, there is a gender violence element here that has a social dimension and needs to be named. Attached takes no stance on this and, in the wrong hands, can be quite harmful for this reason rather than empowering.

In my view, the reason for this failure is that Attached treats all anxious-avoidant...

United States on Sep 28, 2017