Voddie Baucham Jr.'s Guide to Being a Suitable Partner for Marriage: A Father's Perspective

Amazon Customer: Voddie is faithful to scripture and gives families great insight to honoring God through our families. A must read for the whole family!

United States on Oct 05, 2023

Cheque: Listened to Pastor VB and Pastor Paul Washer from 18yrs old when I was saved after Strange Fire Conference, deliberating with the Scriptures in comparison to my Pentecostal/Charismatic background. So glad I understood Biblical manhood and womanhood before I met my husband so 6 yrs later. Directed my understanding and prayers on whom to choose.

Found this book at my dad's house as I must have left it there and took it back home...gave that copy to a single friend... Bought this copy to read to train my children and my husband has been reading it! Have been using the points in this book to help a young boy in a broken home think of LEGACY and setting things right for his descendants. E.g. VB talks about how he spent so much time researching and planted specific trees and his family was disappointed on the reveal: they were baby trees and his kids were expecting MASSIVE ones. That was a teaching point on building trees so others could sit under the shade. It is about doing things right whether or not you have been handed a good inheritance or legacy to boast of. It is about setting things right and the weight of it is on the importance of a father in vetting suitors for his...

United Kingdom on Sep 30, 2023

Rachael: This book is pretty good as far as giving advice. I'd definitely not recommend anyone think that what is outlined has to be performed perfectly or all together. I think it would be impossible, but it's a goal to strive toward. And to be a husband and father is a worthwhile job. When you can do it in the strength and wisdom of God, there's comfort and help. Would recommend this book to anyone, man or woman, who'd like to think more deeply and find suggestions for improving upon themselves, not trying to change someone else.

United States on Jun 11, 2023

Kindle Customer: While the book had reasoning and scripture for what the author believed, it was refreshing to see a book geared toward a Christian audience that is seeking to be LIKE Christ and not to BE Christ Himself. The author has views and positions I disagree with, and I respect those positions as his own AND clearly explained using scripture. This book provided a look into the inner world and development of a father and his plan to give his daughters, sons, and in-laws the best fighting chance of success for Godly lives together in marriage. In a time where people cave to what is popular or socially acceptable when they deviate from mere tradition, it is refreshing to see genuine opinions born out of a life of learning and growth, reasoned through with scripture and aimed like an arrow to pierce the prisons that could have held generations of families to come.

United States on Jun 03, 2023

Charbel: It was an ok read, valuable insights, but could have been made shorter. Feels like a lot of it has been stretched out.

Poland on Jan 06, 2023

Chris VEP: Every parent that wants their children to thrive and be happy should read and apply the wisdom found in this book

Canada on Jun 10, 2020

kjanz: What He Must Be is an excellent book that we have used to teach our daughters what a godly young man looks like, and to train our son for his future. Voddie Baucham is an excellent author and does a masterful job of not only teaching dads what to look for in future spouses for their daughters, but how to raise their own sons, and finally what they should be themselves! It revolutionized our family! We have suggested the book to so many people and they are always wishing to borrow our copy, which we like to keep close at hand for reference. So, we finally broke down and purchased a second copy to lend to others. Couldn't recommend it more!

Canada on Jan 02, 2017

Nicole: Voddie Baucham has written a book that shows his deep concern for biblical truth and for his own family. Using his own families failures as a backdrop for the need for this book, Pastor Voddie leads us through the process of helping our sons grow into men of God, prepared to lead a family in a sacrificial and loving way. Through this, he also demonstrates what young women should expect from men desiring to pursue them. Voddie is quite clear that it is not a father's place to arrange a marriage for his daughter. Statements like "I have no intention of picking Jasmine's husband for her. We do not advocate arranged marriages." make this more than clear. Yet, these statements do not release a father from his responsibility to walk through the process of finding a spouse with his daughter. I would best sum it up like this. A father's role is to rule out and chase away the bad choices for a husband, while raising his daughter to be an exemplary wife. Further, fathers should also mentor men towards becoming mature, selfless and faithful husbands, using the role of elder as a target for all men, whether they grow to be a husband for our daughter or not. All men should be taught to desire...

Canada on Jul 18, 2012

Joshua Reich: Last week I read Voddie Baucham's book What He must be...if he Wants to Marry my Daughter. I read it for a few reasons. One, it went with my last sermon in our series on the book of Nehemiah. Two, it was one of the books I wanted to read for our series in July The Perfect Kid. Three, the idea of Ava getting married one day scares me to death. I think I'm scared for a few reasons: I remember what I was like in high school and college and I don't want that guy anywhere near my daughter, and I have never seen parents actual do this well.

What Voddie points out and I have to agree from experience. Parents are more involved with their daughter's choice of college than they are in her choice of a husband. Which one is more important? The answer is obvious, but we let daughters go it alone.

After reading the book, I am actually excited about the role and responsibility that God has given me as a father in raising sons worth marrying and helping Ava navigate the arena of choosing a husband. I love the one chapter title, "Don't send a woman to do a man's job." His point is that we allow and expect our daughters to do what God has called fathers to do.

Voddie walks...

United States on Jun 03, 2010

Shaun Tabatt: Ask Voddie Baucham how to best prepare for leadership and ministry and he may tell you to get married and have children. You may be wondering what that has to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. The answer is that it has everything to do with helping your daughter choose a suitor. This book is directed at Christian parents, especially fathers. As followers of Christ it is the father's duty to lead and minister in his own home first. If you aren't sure what this looks like, you may want to consider for yourself the qualities Voddie suggests we should be looking for in our daughter's future husband and instilling in our sons who will most likely be husbands themselves some day.

The first part of the book lays the groundwork for the vision and thought behind these counter-cultural ideas. Chapter one expresses the need for fathers to have a Christ-centered multigenerational vision that extends to the children, grandchildren and beyond. Chapter two describes marriage as a ministry, explaining how marriage is a fertile training ground for future church leaders as the Christian marriage illustrates the relationship of Christ and the church to a lost and hurting world....

United States on Mar 14, 2009