Navigating the Path to Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Gaining Clarity and Moving Out of the Fog

KCSC: Validating, informative, relatable. I have never felt more seen or understood. It's an emotional read given the circumstances but this book is the best thing I could've came across and found at this time in my life. Easy to understand and hard to put down.

United States on Nov 21, 2023

Arretamador: I love the book as it allows me to remind myself when I am in a gaslighting, emotionally abusive, unfair situation. The book has a excellent website that provides you with some good resources such as support groups, seminars and some basic yet important tools that you can immediately use to defend against abuse. I like the book also due to the fact that it is concise, scientifically accurate and is current. It’s definitely one of the better self help books on Amazon. If you want to learn more do a Google search and it will connect you to the site. It’s a decent place to start and although it’s not going to be as effective as routine therapy it surely will help you bike that vital “skills toolkit “ that everyone can benefit from.

United States on Aug 02, 2023

Ruby De Leon: “I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how much abuse in a relationship was normal. Then someone told me that abuse in a relationship was like having poop in your soup.””No amount of abuse is okay. Ever.” - before reading this book, I thought maybe I was too sensitive, that i was overreacting, but no. Abuse is abuse, and this book validated that for me. Reading this book was like finally talking to someone that understood EXACTLY what I was experiencing. it’s a must read for anyone that wants to understand and escape the narcissistic abuse cycle.

United States on Mar 17, 2023

Heather Crame: A great book to read for therapists and anyone who has lived with or been in a relationship with a narcissist.
So well written and easy to understand with examples of behaviour people have experienced in a narcissistic relationship and why the narcissist behaves this way. A great book to read especially when you have got out of the relationship

A very refreshing read and would highly recommend.

United Kingdom on Dec 13, 2022

No one: My ex did an internet search for me and my review of this book came up. He was very upset that I “told the world” he was a narcissist. To be clear, I didn’t mention his name. However, if you are googling me because you have met him and he seems wonderful and you’re curious- trust your gut, notice the red flags and if you think “He’s not angry, he’s just passionate, he’s had so many things go wrong, poor guy” Beware, that anger will be focused on you one day. Notice the negging, ask yourself if you’re providing full meals and he’s going breadcrumbs. Good luck and I hope this helps.

United States on Oct 01, 2022

Kath: I am no longer confused.. the mist has cleared and I see My strength . The clarity is empowering. Thankyou Dana I thought your book - The narcissist s playbook was my favourite, but now Out of thr fog is the winner. This is a tool for recovery and being able to know that as a survivor of narcissist abuse I can be propelled by that which I have suffered towards a peaceful and joyful next stage of life.

Australia on Aug 06, 2022

KRNRNNP: Loved the message and an easy read for those not familiar or educated in psychological sciences - and/or those trying to understand a loved one. My only bone to pick is I felt there were too many similar and stereotypical examples, and mostly of men as abusers. While the author did write that anyone can be the abuser, the example scenarios did lean heavily towards men abusing women. Also the examples were pretty well known behaviors over and over such as lying, cheating, stealing. Also, when she does refer to woman abusers, it does not dive too much beyond the (again) stereotypical cheater who dresses like a tramp or shops too much etc... I know there are many more subtle or covert narcissistic people out there who are not outwardly vain or engage in risky behaviors. There are many who don't look very good, dress normally, and just terrorize their families but act sweet as pie and giving them the public - they're not all out at bars being the life of the party, cheating, or siphoning money from their spouse! While she does state this - it's not impressed upon and I fear someone may read this without many covert narcissist examples, not realizing that their behavior is also...

United States on Jan 27, 2021

JDJD: Wow! It’s a cliche to say things have changed your life but this book certainly has. Ideally we should all read this book before we date or go into the big wide world; in reality you are unfortunately probably reading this as like me you have just escaped a narcissistic relationship or you or a friend may still be in one (((hug))))
FOG = Fear, Obligation and Guilt and the writer explains these are often the core arsenal for abusers to manipulate and control their targets.
Dana Morningstar writes how they can be the most charming of people at first and then turn, making the target feel they have wronged them to make them this way and try to get back to how it was, how they play cat and mouse with you to see how far they can push etc
At a time when no one understood just what I’d been through and couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just walk away and forget this book was a life safer, it stopped me feeling guilty that I should have seen it, could have prevented it, could have stopped them acting like this if I’d only..., and most of all stopped me from beating myself up about going back time and time again. It stopped me even though I knew it was wrong, wondering...

United Kingdom on Nov 02, 2020

Caramella: "Out of the Fog" is an excellent book for people who are trying to come to terms with narcissistic abuse!
It's message is straightforward and clear without all the heavy psychobabble you may find in other books on this particular subject!
It has many very important messages and very helpful insights and information for people trying to recover from narcissistic abuse, and for those who are now trying to recognise narcissistic abuse, and abusers, so they can protect themselves from falling into another narcissist's poisonous web in the future.
It's a very compassionate book, especially for people who are suffering from "Post Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome", as it doesn't use terms that almost blame the victim, such as, "no one can make you feel anything if you don't want them to"!
Anybody who has ever been in a relationship, or has just even had to try and negotiate with a narcissist will know that this statement is absolute garbage!
So I give this book ten out of ten because it really helped me feel that I'm not the pathetic loser I was led to believe I was, when I was involved with my narcissist fiancè!
However! I am so disappointed to have to make any criticism...

United Kingdom on Feb 23, 2020

KindleCustomer: I adore this book. "Out of the Fog" investigates thought holes--erroneous beliefs surrounding abusive circumstances and trauma--and sets a light on how society often unwittingly encourages dangerous thinking. Most sections are presented clearly in a "thought hole vs truth" structure, and all are followed by at least one experience or thought from individuals who have experienced such issues.

As a survivor of many forms of abuse stemming from childhood and reaching into adulthood, I had already come to 98% of the conclusions touched on here. I've seen how acceptance of them have aided others in my life too, so I am confident in their validity. I was, however, disappointed that the negative aspects of hypervigilance were not explored. Obviously, a sufferer or survivor should not feel guilt in drawing lines and creating boundaries. This is true *even if they DO "miss out" on certain healthy people*. Saying a good relationship or friendship will always be there, waiting, no matter how slow you need to go, is simply not being truthful. Life is not so black-and-white. Yet, missing out on something viable due to practising an attitude of safety and personal sanity is far from the...

United Kingdom on Jan 27, 2018