The Person You Mean to Be: Strategies to Combat Unconscious Bias and Become Your Best Self

Melisia: This book was just as described and was delivered promptly

United States on Dec 27, 2023

Kelley: I’m a cishet, allo, well-off, (recently) overweight, self-employed, atheist, middle-aged, white mother-of-two who has spent a lot of time learning about implicit bias and trying to do better. (I’m also a liberal, but I’m guessing you have already figured that out.) This book taught me new things and reframed some of the more recently-learned things in a manner that is going to be incredibly helpful. I highlighted many sections—so many more than is my norm. I’d recommend this to any and everyone who considers themselves a good person. It’s hugely actionable, easily relatable, and combines the author’s wisdom with vulnerability, making for a captivating read. Thank you. ❤️

United States on Mar 04, 2023

Imagstl: Before change can occur around us, we must first be willing to effect change within ourselves. No finger pointing, just self-reflection.

United States on Jun 22, 2022

Galen: Thank you, Dolly. This book has given me the tools, the words, and the confidence to engage in those “tough” conversations with those whom we are trying to support as well as those whose minds we are trying to help shape for the better.

Already, I have been able to leverage Dolly’s language of “headwinds” and “tailwinds” to circumvent the defensiveness that often manifests when the word “privilege” is brought up.

This book is a must read for those who wish to do good but aren’t sure how. For me, having read several books about privilege and allyship left me feeling empowered but uncertain of how to step up without putting myself in the spotlight.

Dolly’s book offers an array of lessons to remedy that concern. This work is not about being a savior, the goal is not to make “it” about us privileged folks. It’s about supporting groups who have been historically excluded—sitting alone at the table—and making sure they don’t have to sit alone forever. Where other books have offered the facts and figures about the harm our exclusion has caused, Dolly’s book offers insights on how we can use our knowledge to make meaningful...

United States on Jul 24, 2021

KJM: This is a book I feel I have been waiting a long time for. I consult in the area of diversity and inclusion and I am always looking for ways to make conversations about such contentious subjects easier.

This book provides great insight into our relationship with difference. And it offers some simple, practical guidance about how we can have constructive, meaningful conversations to better understand how others experience their worlds. It gives insight into our own relationship to difference and how we can better support diversity. I have bought a number of copies to share with key people in my network to spread the word. And to make it easier for us to unite across our differences.

Australia on Sep 19, 2019

Michelle: Fantastic read! If you are looking at this book, you have already started so definitely recommend picking it up.

United Kingdom on Nov 29, 2018

Rick K.: "I had hoped that [good people] would understand that law and order exist for the purpose of establishing justice and that when they fail in this purpose they become the dangerously structured dams that block the flow of social progress."*

Martin Luther King wrote those words in his Letter From a Birmingham Jail in 1963. More than 50 years later, many of those same dams still exist - and even though many of us think of ourselves as good people, if we're honest, we're often much more focused on our own day-to-day challenges than we are on finding ways to encourage social progress.

Dolly's book attacks that challenge head-on, and provides a blueprint for how we can be more aware of challenges others face, more likely to engage those challenges, and more capable of using our privilege in ways that produce a more positive outcome. Throughout the book, I felt inspired to look for ways to make a positive impact in my own day-to-day interactions. Just as importantly, Dolly does a fantastic job highlighting common mistakes people make - often with the best intentions - that can frustrate progress.

I am certain that anyone reading this book will come away recognizing...

United States on Sep 04, 2018