The Essential Guide to Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: Nurturing with Love and Understanding

Sami: This book's emphasis on emotional regulation translates to increased self-confidence, improved physical health, better academic performance, and healthier social relationships for children. Suitable for parents of children of all ages.

United States on Nov 10, 2023

Perri L: As a parent, Art teacher, I can say this is one of the BEST parenting books out there! Practical, examples given on HOW to carry philosophies out. Read it several times and purchased for other new moms. Must have!!!!!

United States on Jun 09, 2023

madalina: Very repetitive.

United Kingdom on May 18, 2023

Ali: Every parent shall read if they care their kids, specially fathers!

Canada on Mar 24, 2023

Gemma: This book will aid you in your journey to personal wholeness, as well as your striving to be the best parent possible.

Canada on Mar 23, 2022

Katelyn: It starts with a lot of statistics and was kinda boring in the beginning. It was also written in the 90’s so some of the stats are a bit outdated, but it was very interesting and worth the read. The philosophy is still relevant and I honestly believe every parent should read this book

United States on May 11, 2021

Catalina Visoreanu: Wherever you are in life (not parent, parent to be, parent with new born, adolescent...) YOU NEED THIS BOOK. I'll begin by saying I wish our parents have the tools we have today. And I'm not the only one.
The book explains and gives example on hard moments in all stages of life of kids. It may sometime seem like it's focused on divorce because... well, a divorce is a huge deal for a child of any age! And yes, it's important to know how to HELP YOUR KID go through it (parents' fight, lack of communication, kids being troubled by other kids or being ignored by their piers, toddler tantrums, etc).
A huge surprise to me was how much the ROLE OF THE FATHER is emphasized, and altogether to find out and figure it out myself how important my own relationship with my dad is still affecting me today, in both good and less good ways. If you're a dad, do yourself and your kid(s) a life favor and read the book.
This book will help YOU understand not just your kids and how to raise them, but it helps YOU in dealing with yourself and in dealing with other adults.
I may say this book helped me see things from a different point of view, and in such an amazing way that my relationship...

United States on Nov 17, 2020

Alessandro: Although at times a bit too prone to seeing all children as ‘miracles’ (remember Matilda, the musical...?), this book is a very practical guide to raising Emotionally intelligent children.
And God knows we need more Emotionally intelligence in this world.

Italy on Oct 11, 2020

Daniela: The author's discussion of type of discipline was insightful. I also thought the examples and explanations of the main emotional issues per age interesting.

I recommend reading this along with two other books: "HOLD ON TO YOUR KIDS, Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate" and "NON VIOLENT COMMUNICATION, Marshall Rosenberg". The first led me to question Gottman's claims about the importance of peers and what's "normal" in adolescents.

I find "non violent communications" explains a much better way to communicate with your children. Although Rosenberg would probably generally agree with Gottman, I think he has much more experience and insight into which types of language can be harmful (some of Gottman's examples would be considered harmful language by Rosenberg, and I think Rosenberg is right), and into how to express ourselves in a truly respectful way.

I also wonder whether the common fears of children 4-7 that Gottman describes are not universal, as he implies, but the result of a US style of parenting. Perhaps, with an attachment style of parenting (see for example ATTACHED AT THE HEART, Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker or THE ATTACHMENT PARENTING BOOK, William and...

Canada on Dec 17, 2016

Margot Maguire: Every parent wants to equip their child with the necessary skills to succeed in school and life. In addition to intellectual skills, recent research highlights the importance of emotional intelligence. According to leading psychologist and researcher, Professor John Gottman, even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and ability to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life. People who are aware of their own and others' emotions have qualitatively different experiences to those who do not. They have closer, more satisfying relationships, can manage the challenges of life, have better health and wellbeing, and are more likely to achieve their goals.

In today's society, however, it seems that we have stopped listening to our own and others' emotions. Feelings are often suppressed rather than expressed and empathy for others is frequently lacking. This can come at considerable cost. Of course we need to strike a balance between being attuned to feelings and being able to safely express them, while also not being so overwhelmed by emotions that they significantly interfere with life. This balance is part of optimal emotional...

United States on Oct 18, 2013