Ankur M.: Must read gor indian children who have elderly parents.. as it will help you in how to handle your elderly parents behavior.. the book is all about real time scenarios and no bla bla.
India on Oct 11, 2020
Amazon Customer: I love the book, but don't love having grupy ass old parents.
Canada on Oct 15, 2016
amber: A very good book particularly for understanding behavioura and the book can be used as a reference to explain to siblings if they find it difficult to understand strange behaviours like shadowing. I found it extremely useful as preamp behaviour and manage potential stress..
For example if I am cleaning I can ask my mum if she needs anything from the kitchen or need to use the toilet; and then ask her to sit down so she is not in the way when I am cleaning.
United Kingdom on Jan 18, 2016
S. Done: This is such a fabulous book in terms of identifying different personality traits within your older parent(s). It not only helps to understand how the situation is developing, but also outlines how best to cope with the situation. One must always remember, however, that more distance within the relationship is sometimes the only answer. This book also helps one to understand better all sorts of personalities and personality disorders - and is, therefore, a help to anyone wishing to cope with difficult people in all scenarios.
United Kingdom on Aug 07, 2015
annaelizabeth: There are a lot of helpful tips in this book if you are having trouble with your elder. The basis of them though is that the elder is feeling worse than you are. I don't think that is the case for me actually. I've considered no contact or moving to get away from her so I think in my case I feel worse than she does. The guilt trips, manipulation, impatience, depression, negativity, complaining, neediness, anxiety, and demands are not something I am willing to tolerate any more. After taking the test of course mine is at the worse end of the scale, so if yours is average to moderately difficult (which I think most are) I'm sure this book will be extremely helpful. I have a lot of sections of this book highlighted and there are techniques in here which I will work on. However, in my case, the only peace I seem to have is when she leaves me alone, which is rare. I feel a responsibility towards her to help, but I spend a lot of time trying to come to terms with her behavior (intellectually I know she's not being this way on purpose). I've tried boundaries but she keeps testing them with guilt. I'm currently working on meditation to calm my mind and let go of my frustration towards...
United States on Oct 07, 2012
Lorac: Five years ago, I was struggling with the gut-wrenching dilemma of how to care for my widowed mother, who lived 5 hours from me and vacillated between smothering love and unmitigated rage. Her physical, financial and emotional deterioration and over dependence on me to be her savior were crippling.
Our relationship had always been rocky, but, as long as she was able to live independently, I was able to do the same. When she lost her ability to drive and was living alone in a rural area, I plunged into a seemingly bottomless pit-- seeking care-givers, services for her and trying to meet her day-to-day needs from a distance.
I searched frantically for any article or book which would help me face and deal with the worst dilemma of my life.
How could I care for my aging, ill, emotionally demanding mother and still save myself?
Grace Lebow's book was the only book I could find which spoke to the distress of children dealing with their often unbearable parents--especially as the parents lives were deteriorating.
To know that I was not evil or selfish in needing to protect myself as I attempted to provide for my challenging parent, was the most welcome...
United States on May 26, 2006
Steph: This book fills a gap in eldercare literature in a very unique manner. The subject is a touchy one: parents who have suffered with lifelong personality disorders whose problems have been exacerbated by aging. Often they have driven the very children on whom they depend away from them and now need their care. A person in the unenviable position of being a caregiver for such a parent is often uncomfortable even sharing what they are enduring with other people, for fear of looking as though they hate or are slandering their parent("How could their mother possibly be that bad?"). Navigating ordinary eldercare issues is challenging enough without deeply rooted personality disorders complicating matters and emotions.
My own mother suffers from what I now know to be narcissistic personality disorder. She was so fearful from physical and psychological abuse doled out by her own mother, that she clung to both her brother,and myself, her only surviving relatives. Her marriage broke up, and she ended up living with and being supported by her brother. She was fearful that I would marry, or get friends, and any friendship I formed was viewed as a personal affront, and she would let me...
United States on Dec 25, 2005
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