Fidibus: [Diese Publikation ist englischsprachig].
Die wörtliche Bedeutung von INLAW ist in seriösem englisch: "a relative by marriage", und von TOXIC ": of, relating to, or caused by a poison or toxin" [=Webster's New Encyclopedic Dictionary, Könemann, 1993].
... und in saloppem Deutsch heißt das: angeheiratete bucklige Verwandtschaft, überwiegend angewendet auf Schwiegereltern, wobei ich persönlich mir die Freiheit nehme, darunter ALLE "relatives" einzuordnen.
Susan Forward hat in dieser hier rezensierten Publikation dargestellt, welche Gefahren für das eigene selbstbestimmte Leben von einer übermächtigen "Familie" ausgehen können. Die Autorin befaßt sich dabei schwerpunktmäßig mit Schwiegereltern und Schwiegerkindern.
Im einzelnen, und um herauszufinden, ob man dem Kreis derart "gequälter" SchwiegerTÖCHTER oder SchwiegerSÖHNE (!!!) zuzurechnen ist, stellt sie zu Anfang konkrete Fragen:
"Do your in-Laws:
- Steadily criticize or belittle you?
- Regularly turn to your partner, to meet their needs?
- Make derogatory comments about your appearance, work, political or religious beliefs, or things that are important to you?
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Germany on Mar 10, 2019
KayM.: This book touches upon what seemed to be every type of toxic in-law relationship and gives excellent suggestions on how to navigate these issues with both your spouse and your in-laws. I could relate to a great deal of what the author had to say.
Canada on Jan 21, 2019
Taylor Stoutamire: Okay, honestly, this has been one of my favorite books so far. I have had issues with my in-laws (as I'm sure most people have) for a while. When talking to others or searching for advice online, there are only seem to be two types of stories about in-laws -thoughtful, fantastic, loving in-laws or destructive, cruel, careless in-laws. Sure, my husband's parents aren't exactly perfect, but I also wouldn't consider them purposefully malevolent either. This book, though it seems like it should only help those in dire circumstances, has been extremely useful in my marriage. While reading I constantly felt affirmed in my issues with my in-laws and with my husband. After being told "it's not that big of a deal," and "you're too sensitive," reading this book helped me remember that I am also important in my new family, and my feelings and thoughts are valid. I now have the tools to combat toxic actions from my in-laws, and I can differentiate between purposefully mean actions and thoughtless rude ones.
While the examples of toxic in-laws in the book are often cruel toward their children' partners, they are still not condemned. The author makes sure to recognize what has created...
United States on Jul 26, 2015
Mary S: Got a few answers to an issue I am sure many people have. But I have the luck of living two doors from my mother-in-law. Her son is great, but she I think has some issues.
Canada on May 30, 2015
Nicolino: After having read 'Toxic Parents', I was very pleased to find this book, and knew immediately it would live up to the same standard. I wasn't disappointed. For those of us unlucky enough to be 'blessed' with difficult and even down right thoroughly toxic in-laws, this book not only helps the reader to feel less alone in their plight, but gives useful insight and practical advice, tips, and step-by-step guidance in dealing with such harridans. Beware - it's more than likely to stir up some difficult memories and inner turmoil, but one is so much more enlightened, forewarned, and empowered upon reaching the end of the book.
United Kingdom on Aug 25, 2013
Sister Renee Pittelli: I often recommend Susan Forward's other books, "Toxic Parents" and "Emotional Blackmail" in my ministry for adult children of abusive or controlling birth-families (Luke 17:3 Ministries). I read "Toxic In-Laws" in the hopes of adding yet another dimension to the damage overbearing or controlling parents can do to your life.
I liked how the book started out, describing the types of toxic in-laws, which include Critics, Engulfers, Controllers. Rejectors, and Masters of Chaos. The analysis of why they behave this way was right on. Examples of the reasons why include concern over "what people will think", a missing empathy gene, holding onto your partner (their child) at all costs, acting out old scripts, and exorcising their demons by attacking you. The author is so right when she warns young marrieds that if they think the in-laws are controlling now, just wait till the grandkids come along! She teaches us that although many of us cling to the false hope that "once they get to know me, they'll like me", time doesn't help and usually worsens the hostility.
We are shown that we are part of a triangle- often viewed as competition by our spouses' parents. Many times they...
United States on Oct 25, 2005
| Navigating Difficult Relationships: Strategies for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage Despite Toxic In-Laws | Jessica Redland and the Hedgehog Hollow Team Create Three-Year Strategies | Heather Atkinson's Unauthorized Story Continues in Bad Blood, Book 2 | |
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| Total Reviews | 16 reviews | 228 reviews | 44 reviews |
| Extended Families | Extended Families | ||
| Customer Reviews | 4.6/5 stars of 548 ratings | 4.5/5 stars of 6,858 ratings | 4.5/5 stars of 2,155 ratings |
| Best Sellers Rank | #13 in Extended Families#97 in Dysfunctional Families #648 in Marriage | ||
| Dysfunctional Families (Books) | Dysfunctional Families | ||
| Marriage | Marriage | ||
| Publisher | Harper Perennial; Reprint edition | Boldwood Books Ltd | |
| ISBN-10 | 0060507853 | 1801625182 | 1801629021 |
| Paperback | 304 pages | ||
| Item Weight | 8.8 ounces | 1.33 pounds | 3.52 ounces |
| Dimensions | 5.31 x 0.68 x 8 inches | 6 x 1.06 x 9 inches | 6 x 1 x 9 inches |
| ISBN-13 | 978-0060507855 | 978-1801625180 | 978-1801629027 |
| Language | English | English | English |
Canada on Mar 22, 2019